Damn Words

Apr. 20th, 2024 07:24 pm
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 Damn Words

I'm behind in a big way. Again. I'm farther than I thought I'd be but I'm still behind. I was hoping I could keep up with the pace this session of Camp Nano but I'm still having trouble with motivation. 

My health is also a factor.The headaches aren't helping. Neither is the pain I'm having from just trying to get through my day. 

No excuses! I need to get my but in gear. Writing is important to me and I don't want to give it up again. 

Off to make words……
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Self Pity

Apr. 16th, 2024 09:38 am
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 Self Pity
 
I'm not sure I can do this anymore. I'm not well and I don't seem to be getting better. I'm weak and can barely walk. 
 
There's so much that needs to be done and I'm not sure I can do it all. Frankly, I'm not sure If I can do any of it on my own. 
 
Depression? Maybe just being overwhelmed. Very overwhelmed. 
 
I thought I'd have help but I was lied to. Not for the first time. Knowing me it won't be the last.
 
I need to make decisions. Do I sell up and go into assisted living? Do I try to hang on? If I sell up what will happen to the furbabies? Where will I go? Do I try to find another place to live? 
 
Too many questions. Not enough answers. 
 
All I seem to do is sleep and sit. I need to get up and do it. Something. Anything. Be like a Nike commercial and “just do it”.
 
I have a hard time asking for help but I'm going to have to start. I need a lot of help. I just don't know how to start asking and who to ask.
 
Maybe I should break things down into small tasks and make a list to check off what I've accomplished. Sounds too much like an IEP but maybe that's what I need. Just do it.
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To Nano or not to Nano …..That is the question 4/1

I really should do camp. My word count sucks and I am behind on all things. I haven't even signed in to Camelot Drabble in weeks. They must think I've died or something.

Ugh I suck at not being distracted. Too much yarn and streaming makes my word count very smol. Very very smol.

One other reason is Unconventional Courtship is early this year. I spent the morning finding summaries I could use. The last posting date is June 30. I think I could scrape up 1000 words on something by then. Hopefully it will be a decent 1 shot and not another epic WIP.

Sigh pray for me. I'm signing in and giving it a go. This could very well be a disaster but it's not like I have a lot of choice. (Very smol word count is making me anxious.)

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End of the dry spell? 3/17

Well I seemed to have found some words again. I don't know how long this will last. I haven't even had a story idea in weeks.

I haven't been signing in on Camelot Drabble either. That tells me I'm almost done with Merlin for good. I need to finish my wips and move on. It's time. I just can't feel or hear them anymore. I thought the rewatch would help but it didn't.

All of my fandoms are feeling dead to me these days. Most of them are off the air. I think that may be the problem.

I need a new fandom. Something I can get excited over and want to write fanfic for. So far the search is going nowhere. I've even been searching on the Prime channels. Maybe another British or even an Australian one. Who knows?

Maybe at the end of the search,  I'll decide to just write more original work and let that consume me like fanfic did. I think that would be something good to come out of all the annoyance of being blocked for so long.

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Planning Problems…… 2/7

Sometimes, I look at all the things I need to finish and just cringe. It seems like they are tribbles in the way they multiply. Sorry for the reference but I'm not sure where they all came from.

I need a plan that will keep me on track and keep me from adding to the ever growing file of fic. I don't call it the Pile for nothing. I've been having some trouble focusing again. It's not helping matters at all. That's the reason I need a plan. The plan needs to be simple and easy to follow.

Lets see…...

I could write on odd days and do other creative things on even days.

I could write the first half of the month then be crafty the rest of the month.

I could just stop overthinking and just do it.

I could stop whining and finish my shit before I add more shit to the damn Pile.

Got a little bitchy on that last one. See my point? No focus. No motivation. And a severe lack of Writer's Mojo. Whatever am I going to do?

I guess I'll just have to try and figure this out while I finish that pillow cover. Juat as a matter of reference, I have a pile of unfinished craft stuff too.

I'm just screwed. Totally screwed.

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 1 improve my knitting skills
This is the year I relearn knitting. I've never been very good at it. I can do the basics but I would like to make something other than a scarf. I ordered a yarn of the month box just to work on my knitting skills.

2 Finish writing the pattern for my "Fussy Squares" 
I suck at knitting but I can crochet anything. I can even write my own crochet patterns. I've been working on a set of four Fussy Squares. These are textured squares that will be combined into a larger blanket. I have 2 done and I've started the third one. 

3 Organize my craft supplies
My craft supplies are in so many different totes and boxes I have no way of knowing what I have. It's not just all the yarn and material. It's also other small craft supplies like buttons, zippers, and safety eyes. I'd like to have one large cabinet to put everything in but I don't really have any space for one. 

4 Finish my fanfic wips
I have WIPs that are years old that need to get finished but I've just haven't gotten back to them. It's not that I don't have them outlined to the end it's just that I have other things I'd rather write instead. I need to find the motivation to finish them all. 

5 Get caught up on all my posting
I have a file full of things that need to be posted on various sites but I just haven't got around to doing it. Some of it is months old. I need to sit down with my computer and just get it done. I have a lot to post on Dreamwidth and even more to post on Fanfiction.  Net. Sigh I should just suck it up and get it done. 
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 My rant against 45

In the last four years, we as a country have been subjected to lies, bullying, bigotry, misogyny, rage tweeting, political favors, nepotism and an absolute disregard for human life. All of this damage has been visited upon us in the form of one man who was supposed to be a leader for good but turned out to be an instrument of our worst behaviors. It's been rough. Will it get easier? Only time will tell. 

The damage done to our country will not heal itself nor will it heal overnight. There will be repercussions from the way truly heinous behavior has been normalized in our society. We will never be the same again. We can only have hope that we will heal and become stronger because of our experience.  

We have had a president that thinks white supremacists are "good people." He has led this movement of hate. He has stirred up the well hidden past and made it normal, even acceptable, to be racist. This is not the example we should hold up to our children. We should denounce this hatefulness every chance we get but unfortunately there will be some who will be emboldened to take that hate further into murder and tortue. 

The fire is lit and we need to find a way to put it out. We need to put it out before we are all burned. Yes. I hear what you're thinking. There has always been racism in this country. That's sadly true. Until now, it was in the shadows and under a hood not marching down the streets of our nation's capital. 

Civil rights for all should be the expectation not the goal. There should be mutual respect between all people in this country no matter race, sexual identity, or gender. We are not a new country.  We have been at this Republic for centuries now. We no longer have an excuse. Nor should we have one. 

Morality can not be legislated but laws can shape morality. Laws can uphold basic expectations of behavior that a society should follow. Basic expectations of behavior can help to change the outlook. Making discrimination in all forms illegal should be considered and enforced. Will laws help us now? It's uncertain. We may be too far down that slippery slope to climb back up again. 

Irrationality has become the norm as lies and misdirection become a part of everyday life. We used to joke about the dishonest politicians but to see a president be truly dishonest is unsettling. How so many people can believe the lies of one man is frightening. Rational thinking should expose the lies for what they are and the rest can be disproven through research and common sense. 

The most astonishing thing is people believing lies as truth. Embracing a culture of lies and misinformation is becoming a real movement among a number of citizens  of this country. Of course they have the right to believe anything they want to believe but when it infringes upon the rights of others we must speak out and educate with proven fact. Will this always work? Not always but we must keep trying with patience and compassion for the benefit of ourselves and our neighbors. 

Politics is rife with favors and even nepotism. Some would say its the nature of the beast. To some degree this is true but normally its carried out behind closed doors away from the public eye. In the last four years, there has been no attempt to hide big campaign donors getting positions of power with no experience in the job they have been appointed to. Relatives given jobs front and center without thought to propriety. In fact, there has been a "do as I please" attitude since the moment this president took office. It's deplorable and corrupt. 

Social media has become the bully pulpit of the modern age. For the most part, it is uncensored and more opinion than fact. Social media is a useful tool. Its how we connect in the modern world. We are looking at one screen or another all day long in this country. That said what can be used for good can also be used to stir trouble and discord. 

We have been subjected to rage tweeting and bullying through social media for the last four years. Mean hate filled tweets calling people names and spouting hate filled rhetoric has become the signature of a president. Now that his time is ending the social media accounts have become his last stand. He is using them to stir up his most devoted followers into a frenzy. Unfortunately, it's working and not for the good of this country either. 

The bullying is not just on social media. It extends to threats and promised consequences to those who refuse to go along with his way of thinking. The phrase "do it my way or else" comes into play here. There is no difference between what this man has been doing for the last four years and what a sixth grader does on a school playground. It's bad behavior either way. 

The most horrific behavior from this president is the total lack of concern for the current suffering in our country due to Covid 19. No empathy or concern has been shown. No attempt to work on stemming the spread of this very contagious plague. He shows no regard for anyone but himself while people die all over this country. He has a total disregard for human life in general.

His campaign events showed his lack of concern. Large crowds of mostly unmaked people standing shoulder to shoulder like there was no plague. Even more gatherings of unmasked people inside our White House. It was no surprise when he got Covid 19. 

What should have been a wake up call was brushed off as "no big deal." The truth is the country is hitting milestone after milestone of sick infected or dead every day. Instead of reinforcing hand washing and mask wearing, he throws away the opportunity and goes about having more superspreader events. 

We are dying here….. We don't care about your hurt little feelings or your delusional conspiracy theories. Because you obviously don't care about us.

When he should have led, he failed. When he should have set an example, he failed. When he should have brought us together, he divided us. When he should have cared for the people of this country, he cared only for himself. 

I'm so done with him and I'm counting the minutes until that despicable excuse for a human is tossed out of our White House on his ass, one way or another. He will probably bounce all the way to a prison cell. I have my fingers crossed, do you?

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 I don't know what it is but I feel unsettled. I can't seem to concentrate and I really need to right now. I have so many things that need to get done and I can't seem to focus enough to get anything done. 

I've considered that I may be on the cusp of a manic phase. I'm certainly due one. It's been a while. My bipolar cycles very slowly so my depression lasts a while before I get a shorter manic phase. However, it doesn't feel like it usually does when I get my manics.

I am an empath so it could be that. Too many people are worried and frightened in the world right now with everything that's going on in the country and the world. I like to think that I'm far enough into the woods where it wouldn't effect me but I'm not going to rule it out. The amount of people and the strength of emotions could carry all those vibrations back here to me in the woods. 

I also considered that it might be cosmic. The veil thinned at Samhain and it doesnt feel like the doorway closed. Im trying to block those feelings but Im not having any success with it. The retrograde is over. Things should be getting better but it feels like the universe is stuck somehow. Im not sure if this is real or my over stimulated brain but everthing feels wrong right now. 

I can't sleep either and that always makes me anxious. Let's face it I love to sleep and when I can't it affects my mood. I get cranky and bitchy. It doesn't take much to get me upset when I'm tired.  

My pain levels have increased lately too. The fibromyalgia and joint pain have been really bad in the last two months. I'm limping again with a swollen knee. I can't seem to get the swelling to go down. I have a feeling that when winter sets in it will only get worse. 

I sound like I'm whining but I really don't like to be stressed out. It makes me even more stressed out. Talk about vicious cycles. I think I'm going to take a deep breath and try to calm the hell down. Maybe two or three breaths…... 

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 The election day has turned into a week long wait and see. Four states have yet to be called for a candidate. Voter turn out is at a record high. States have different counting systems. To sum it up, it's a unnerving drawn out process this year. 

If 2020 wasn't bad enough with Covid 19, voting for president and other political offices was different this year. The vast majority of voters used mail in ballots. It's understandable. No one wants to stand in a line with a bunch of people during this pandemic. I certainly didn't. 

But now states that aren't used to large quantities of mail in ballots are feeling the pinch of their laws that keep them from counting mail in ballots until Wednesday after the election. I think some states may review their process before the next round of elections. 

Are mail in ballots the future of voting going forward? This is a distinct possibility. The record breaking numbers of votes this time and the convenience of dropping your vote in a drop box or mailing it in point to a new trend in the way the US votes. More access is always better and the mail in ballots give that to so many who for whatever reason don't want to or can't stand in line on election day.

Not all votes were mail in ballots. The Republicans, 45 especially, were encouraged to vote in person by 45. They did in record numbers. They were also discouraged to use mail in ballots. I don't think this was a good idea. It would make more sense to encourage voters to cast their votes by any means possible. 45 may have shot himself in the foot there

I learned more about elections than I ever thought possible this year. I'm actually glad that I learned something from this. I learned how ballots are counted. I learned what a provisional ballot is, when it's used and how it is handled. I learned that damaged or ones that wont go through the scanners are handled. I learned a lot and I'm a more informed citizen now. 

45 is bringing many lawsuits to claim voter fraud and all manner of ways to disrupt the election results. So far there has been no evidence of any wrong doings. I think that states were expecting him to do this and took special precautions to ensure that everything was done properly. We shall have to see what if anything comes of them. 

45's behavior has been appalling this week. He made a statement that was fact checked and it turned out to be more false than not. He's been on twitter making accusations of voter fraud and trying to undermine the election process every day so far. His family and supporters are retweeting his unbaseless claims and making some of their own. 

45 hasn't or won't trust in the process of our democracy. Unfortunately, he has no choice. This is the way it is I think 45 is refusing to see the writing on the wall. Its in large capital letters in small words. You are fired. It's a phrase with which he should be very familiar. 

46-ish has been seen several times asking the people to have patience and remain calm. He has been an example of a proper president. No shouting, false claims, or tantrums. He is trying to calm the people of this country to keep us from doing something stupid and violent. He's trying to heal our wounds and hearts and is encouraging the country to come back together as a nation. He's got a lot of work to do to fix what 45 broke. 

Will 45 concede the election with grace like an adult? I dont think so. Nothing 45 has shown me so far in his actions over the last 4 years even resembles adult behavior. He will not go quietly. This will only hurt our very divided country even more. He needs to accept the truth and give 46-ish the keys to the White House as quickly and quietly as possible. Will he? Not likely. 

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There are times I try to be a normal witch but it never works out. So for Samhain ritual I decided to sign up for an online ritual. I was hopeful but my hopes were dashed as soon as I got the packet of pre-ritual info.

I'm not a fluffy witch. I don't go into all the witchy trappings. Don't get me wrong. I like my crystals as much as the next witch but I know that expensive tools won't make me any more magickal than I am. I was taught that the only tools I needed was my intent and my personal power.

I'm a witch on the cheap. I use whatever on hand when I do spell work. I like to make things I use. It gives me a better connection to what I use. If something feels comfortable in your hand, it focuses the flow of magick better. If something is awkward in your hand, it hinders the flow of magick.

Back to the Samhain ritual, I got the downloads and I realized I didn't fit in with this bunch. It's sad because I really wanted to be a part of a group ritual. It's been a while since I enjoyed a focused group energy.

First, I'm a WITCH! You don't need to tell me I'm special or worthy because I'm a witch. I know I'm powerful. I can feel it in my very bones. I could fell my power before I had a name to put to it. No one with true power needs that much reassurance. If you do, you aren't ready to witch. You need to work on your issues first before you try to use your personal power.

Second, spells can't take away bad habits or bad thoughts. Only a conscious decision to change can do that. Focusing on bad things only increases their power. Focus on what you should do or can do to change. Measurable goals are always best instead of vague ones.

I was hoping for a positive energy raising to heal the world not a self centered approach. The world is more in need than a single person. The good of the many outweigh the needs of the few or the one. That works for real life as well as fiction.

Third, spells should be straight forward and uncomplicated. Spells are like prayers not sideshows. Simple works best. It doesn't confuse the true intent of the spell. If there are too many steps there are too many places where things can go wrong or get confused.

Instead I did a simple ritual on my own. It was short and It gave me peace. I will look forward to the new year with hope.

I'm going to need all the hope I can get. The world is messy right now and it looks like itself going to get messier before it gets better. It has to get better. It can't get much worse. Well…. It can but let's hope it doesn't

Hail to the Ancestors! Blessed Be!
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 Well, here we are at the apocalypse ….. the Beer Flu. Okay so it's not really a flu and you don't get it from drinking beer. Boy,  wouldn't that sober up a lot of people. (Pointing at my redneck neighbor with the beer in his hand.)

It's been awhile since there's been a pandemic of any kind. I think the last one was in the early 1920s. Don't quote me on that. I could be wrong. That one was influenza and the death toll was pretty heavy.

Also pandemic is a weird word. It makes me think of panic. Maybe that's the point. It's an epidemic meant to cause panic.  Well, take a deep breath and find your courage because you're going to need it to get through this. No panicking allowed.

On a serious note, if you are old as dirt or have any type of breathing or immune system issues, you need to be careful. The Beer Flu thinks you're tasty. This also applies to brand new babies. Pandemics tend to kill the young, the old and the infirm. That's just how they roll. Sadistic bastards!

If you didn't hoard toilet paper and hand sanitizer like your neighbors, don't panic. Remember that's what the Beer Flu wants you to do. So don't. You can always make friends with that crazy prepper with the bunker in his basement next door if you run out of toilet paper. Take them a casserole!


There are simple things you can do to keep yourself safe. Some of them you should always do even without an apocalypse looming.

-Wash your damn hands with hot water and soap. You should be doing that anyway. Why do you need to be told again? Do it before you touch food and after you use the bathroom.

-Don't mess up your makeup! Touching your face, rubbing your eyes, and picking your nose are the Beer Flu's easiest ways in.

-Cover your spray! Cough or sneeze into a tissue or your elbow. It's your responsibility to keep your spray in check. Throw away that tissue and go wash your damn hands.

-Wipe it! Wipe it good! Use a disinfecting wipe on your phone, tablet and computer keyboard. Keep some handy if you share the computer. You may have washed your damn hands but there's always someone who forgets. Don't forget the game controllers and remotes!

-Be like Spock! Vulcans don't shake hands. Keep your hands and other parts of your body to yourself.

-Not today Satan! Cancel all meetings, gatherings, and hook ups that you can. The Beer Flu can't get you if it can't find you. Stay home read a book, stream something or play online games.

-Skype is your friend. If you have to take a meeting, do it online. (P.S. Naked Skype is fun too)

-Eat, Drink, and be Merry! Eat good food. Drink lots of water. Keep your stress level low. Stress lowers your immune response.


Damn!  The Beer Flu found you….that sucks!

-If you're sick, get your ass back home and stay there! Nobody wants your germy ass anywhere near them. Go! Now!

-High risk is only fun when it's poker. If you're in one of the high risk categories contact your doctor. Follow the doctor's instructions like your life depends on it. It does.

-Call the Limo. If you have any flu like sickness with severe breathing difficulties or very high fever, call an ambulance. Do this even if you're usually healthy. Beer Flu isn't all that picky. It found you, didn't it?

Stay safe y'all and wash your damn hands!
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 You know what I'm talking about. One of those books with half naked people on the cover. The ones where all the men have big dicks and abs for days. The women are all virgins with big boobs.

Yep. You know what I mean. Those books we all secretly read but no one will admit to reading them.

And it's not just m/f couples either.  There are smutty same sex books too so don't give me that "I only read m/m or f/f stories". They also have men with big dicks and abs for days and those women with the big boobs that "have never ever done this sort of thing before".

Smutty books come in all flavors so don't try to tell me they don't. We all read them. Don't lie.

The problem is when I start to write a smutty romance novel, my muse comes over and asks where the magical creatures are. When I say there aren't any, she smacks my hands and tells me to make somebody a damn elf or faerie. Hell. She'd be happy with a shapeshifter.

I really need to have a talk with her about the smacking. She's aggressive and a bit cranky. If it's not sci fi or fantasy, she refuses to participate in the creative process. She's a pain in the ass that way.

So you see my problem?

Writing a smutty romance novel is hard for me. One day, I will get my muse to just let write something that doesn't have magical creatures in it. Until then, I will just have to be content with reading all the smutty romance novels I can.
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Is there a point to this? 

I wonder why I still do this. I don’t think I’ll ever manage to get published. I believe i have been wasting my time. At least, I feel like i am. It's totally frustrating me.

I write fanfiction all the time. I have regular readers. I have regular commenters. But its fanfiction and there is an interest in that. I'm not sure I could get the same interest in my original fiction.

I write fantasy and science fiction when I’m not writing fanfiction. It's not a really common thing. I like it so that's what I write. It's not everyone's taste. I know but i try to do it well.

I like to create worlds then go on adventures in them. World building is fun. Worlds can be anything and anywhere. Creating characters to go on adventures is fun too. I create creatures of every description from androids to shape shifting aliens. 

I've never gotten much interest in my original stuff. Once in a while, I get a comment but that’s rare. If I can't get readers on free sites how am I supposed to get people to pay to read my stuff.

I know that advertisement is important but I don’t know how to even go about it. Where should I advertise? Facebook? Tumblr? Twitter? Twitter? If I use those things then I’m relying on my followers to get the word out. It doesn't seem very effective.

Getting a publisher is another problem. What if no one wants to publish it? I could go the self-publishing route but I have no clue as to how to go about it.

Most writers get an agent but I don’t have money for that. I don’t have money for anything. That's part of the reason that I would like to publish something to get some extra money coming in.

Basically I’m stuck. Why should I bother writing anymore? Because I am compelled by a force greater than my frustration and self-doubt.
 

Chains

Dec. 20th, 2018 12:21 pm
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Chains
Things can bind us like chains to memories and when those memories are of someone who has passed away then those chains are strong. The chains are sometimes broken when the thing that binds us is lost or destroyed but the memory remains.

Holding on to things to keep from fully grieving is unhealthy. I have seen firsthand what that can do to a person. It tears open old wounds over and over again that were never allowed to heal properly. When those things are lost or destroyed the grief is just as fresh as the moment it happened. Sometimes even more painful because the grief is not just for the object but for the memory connected to it.

I'm not saying that objects that hold memories are not important. Memories belong in the past. Moving on is always preferable to living in that past. A tangible object can bind you to a time, a place, or a feeling. When the object is lost it breaks the chain holding us to that feeling. Losing that object wont make you move on unless you want it.

Photos and ticket stubs are an example of this. We can relive a concert or an event that brings up happy feelings. They make us smile and remember the event just as it happened in our minds. These are precious memories but even without the ticket stubs and photos we can still remember the happy event with maybe less detail.

Conversely, a item from a lost love one can bring a memory of the moment they passed from this world. A ring or a pocket watch can take you back to the moment of grief. It's not uncommon to keep an object that once belonged to a love one. it ties us to that person for good or bad and sometimes in grief.

We bond an emotion to a thing. It happens on an unconscious level. Good or bad memories are bonded without regard to which they are. We embed them then we take them out and relive the emotion again and again.

Grief is a strange thing. It never really goes away. We may think we have gotten over the death of a love one but we never do. It hides in the back of our minds waiting to be called up to the front. Waiting to punch us in the gut all over again.

I have a bible marker from my grandfather and when I hold it, it reminds me that he's not here to comfort me to love me. I feel alone just like I did on the day he passed away. I was devastated on that day and I feel that emotion as fresh as the day it happened. I bonded my grief to that bible marker.

It's strange but I feel his presence when I hold that ribbon with his initials. It’s like something of him is still in it. Energy? Soul? I don't know.

The photos that I have of him remind me of happy times but they don’t bring the heavy sadness that the bible marker does. I see him happy and smiling and it makes me remember his hugs and his laughter.

I will never stop grieving him even when that bible marker turns to dust. The feeling might lessen but it will never go away.

Cherish your memories and the objects they are bound to but remember that life is the search for more memories in the future not the ones in the past. Be more conscious of the memories you bond to things.

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Personal Responsibility and Safety 
When you do something stupid, you should expect there to be consequences and when there are you need to be willing to accept them. Sometimes being stupid can cause you to be in danger as well.

Recently a female acquaintance had nude and partially nude photos posted on a website by a male second party. I do not condone his actions but I do not feel she is an innocent victim either.

One of the first things we tell our daughters, granddaughters and nieces is to not send nudes to anyone via email, text or an online messenger. We tell them this for personal safety as well as to instill common decency in them.

These days, photos have encrypted data on them. GPS information, as well as date and time stamps, is encrypted in them. It is not difficult to extract this date and find out where they were taken. There is always a chance that an obsessed person will use that data to come to there and cause harm to the person in the photos. 

At the very least nude or partially nude photos are never meant to be shared by people that don’t know each other in real life. If you don’t know someone personally then you should never exchange that kind of material and you should absolutely never do it digitally.

The one thing about the internet is that you can be whoever you want to be. You can be as sweet as sugar on line and be a total bitch in real life or the opposite. No one really knows each other on line.

In that light, you can’t really trust anyone on line. That is why we tell young women not to send nudes to people on line. You can’t trust someone you don’t really know not to take those photos and use them to find you or post them. To think otherwise is more than just naïve, it’s dangerous. 

Now back to the female acquaintance, was she a victim? In a way, yes. Could she have avoided being a victim? Absolutely.

She is an adult and didn’t use her best judgement in sending photos to multiple individuals and posting them in group chats. She endangered herself. Now she wants to blame the individuals who posted them on line for hurting her. She refuses to accept her part in it.

Her friends have been supportive but they are not looking at the big picture. They blame the men but not their friend. They fail to see that she was the one that sent the photos and she was the one who needs to take responsibility for her part in all of this.

As I said I don’t condone the actions of the men but I don’t condone her actions either. Neither is blameless in this.    

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