Personal Responsibility and Safety
Feb. 8th, 2018 02:57 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sidhe_faeriePersonal Responsibility and Safety
When you do something stupid, you should expect there to be consequences and when there are you need to be willing to accept them. Sometimes being stupid can cause you to be in danger as well.
Recently a female acquaintance had nude and partially nude photos posted on a website by a male second party. I do not condone his actions but I do not feel she is an innocent victim either.
One of the first things we tell our daughters, granddaughters and nieces is to not send nudes to anyone via email, text or an online messenger. We tell them this for personal safety as well as to instill common decency in them.
These days, photos have encrypted data on them. GPS information, as well as date and time stamps, is encrypted in them. It is not difficult to extract this date and find out where they were taken. There is always a chance that an obsessed person will use that data to come to there and cause harm to the person in the photos.
At the very least nude or partially nude photos are never meant to be shared by people that don’t know each other in real life. If you don’t know someone personally then you should never exchange that kind of material and you should absolutely never do it digitally.
The one thing about the internet is that you can be whoever you want to be. You can be as sweet as sugar on line and be a total bitch in real life or the opposite. No one really knows each other on line.
In that light, you can’t really trust anyone on line. That is why we tell young women not to send nudes to people on line. You can’t trust someone you don’t really know not to take those photos and use them to find you or post them. To think otherwise is more than just naïve, it’s dangerous.
Now back to the female acquaintance, was she a victim? In a way, yes. Could she have avoided being a victim? Absolutely.
She is an adult and didn’t use her best judgement in sending photos to multiple individuals and posting them in group chats. She endangered herself. Now she wants to blame the individuals who posted them on line for hurting her. She refuses to accept her part in it.
Her friends have been supportive but they are not looking at the big picture. They blame the men but not their friend. They fail to see that she was the one that sent the photos and she was the one who needs to take responsibility for her part in all of this.
As I said I don’t condone the actions of the men but I don’t condone her actions either. Neither is blameless in this.
When you do something stupid, you should expect there to be consequences and when there are you need to be willing to accept them. Sometimes being stupid can cause you to be in danger as well.
Recently a female acquaintance had nude and partially nude photos posted on a website by a male second party. I do not condone his actions but I do not feel she is an innocent victim either.
One of the first things we tell our daughters, granddaughters and nieces is to not send nudes to anyone via email, text or an online messenger. We tell them this for personal safety as well as to instill common decency in them.
These days, photos have encrypted data on them. GPS information, as well as date and time stamps, is encrypted in them. It is not difficult to extract this date and find out where they were taken. There is always a chance that an obsessed person will use that data to come to there and cause harm to the person in the photos.
At the very least nude or partially nude photos are never meant to be shared by people that don’t know each other in real life. If you don’t know someone personally then you should never exchange that kind of material and you should absolutely never do it digitally.
The one thing about the internet is that you can be whoever you want to be. You can be as sweet as sugar on line and be a total bitch in real life or the opposite. No one really knows each other on line.
In that light, you can’t really trust anyone on line. That is why we tell young women not to send nudes to people on line. You can’t trust someone you don’t really know not to take those photos and use them to find you or post them. To think otherwise is more than just naïve, it’s dangerous.
Now back to the female acquaintance, was she a victim? In a way, yes. Could she have avoided being a victim? Absolutely.
She is an adult and didn’t use her best judgement in sending photos to multiple individuals and posting them in group chats. She endangered herself. Now she wants to blame the individuals who posted them on line for hurting her. She refuses to accept her part in it.
Her friends have been supportive but they are not looking at the big picture. They blame the men but not their friend. They fail to see that she was the one that sent the photos and she was the one who needs to take responsibility for her part in all of this.
As I said I don’t condone the actions of the men but I don’t condone her actions either. Neither is blameless in this.